Like I said, I am normally the single friend. Yes, I've dated, and yes, I've been in a few serious relationships, but for the most part I am the single friends, the third wheel, the fifth wheel, the tag along, the one who is ALWAYS down to hang out. In the past I am always available to hang out, because frankly, I never had a man taking up all my free time. Honestly, there is nothing like just sitting at home with your man, doing not a damn thing. Couples know what I'm talking about. Why go out when you have someone to talk to right in front of you?
Being the single friend, I also was always the bitter friend. Why can't you hang out? Why are you always with your boyfriend? Why does your boyfriend always have to come along? Can we just have a "girl's night?" Every single girl knows what I'm talking about, why do your taken friends always bring their boyfriend everywhere??? The best way to avoid that is to request a "girl's night," but that doesn't always work out because some guys are always around and for some reason that automatically exempts them from not being present on girl's night. Plus there are those couples that live together, so if you want to hang out, he is always there. The best way to know you are not spending enough time with your single friends is that they request a girl's night. It's code for "you're spending too much time with your boyfriend. I want to hang out without him there for once." I know what all this is like, because like I said I am normally the single friend. Your couple friends want to include you but they also don't want you to feel like the odd man out, so more often than not you hang out with your other single friends or you get stuck at home with a carton of cookie dough ice cream watching reruns of law and order.I am no longer the single friend. I have been in a relationship for a year and half and we live together, so now I'm no longer me, I am we. We come in a package. When I go somewhere without him, people always ask where he is. People invite me out, anticipating that my man will also be there. In fact, most people don't even remember what I was like before I was a taken girl. So now I am "that" friend. You ask for me, you get both of us, we are a packaged deal. This does not mean that I am opposed to an occasional girl's night, but if you want to come over, guess what? He's here too. So now I know how annoying I was as a single friend. I always thought my friends were being selfish and needy for always wanting to be with their men. Frankly you can't leave them at home by themselves or they get themselves into trouble...or the pout. Boys don't want to admit it but they don't like to be left out either. They also hate when you go out with your girls and then come home and fight with them about something they did months ago, only because you just spent the last three hours complaining to your girlfriends and listening to them complain about their men. Most of the time you bring him a long because your other taken friends do the same thing, and then he has someone to talk to. Honestly, we are always together but that doesn't mean we are always "together." Let me explain. We go to the bar, we might not even talk to each other for most of the time. We might not even sit next to each other. So even though we come as a package, we still carry on separately.
Sometimes my single friends annoy me, just as I'm sure I always annoyed by taken friends. They want to hang out, but honestly sometimes I just want to sit on my butt at home. It's easy, it's convenient, and if I want to talk to someone, HEY! there is someone there right next to me doing the same thing. No effort whatsoever. People in relationships are lazy, we don't go out as much because we are not looking for a man, and plus we hate getting dressed up to impress when we already have someone, and he sure as hell doesn't care, he sees you when you wake up, and we all know that's scary. So let's just say my complacency with being in a relationship has strained a few friendships. Some understand and some don't. Those that don't...they're single. Surprised? You shouldn't be. Friends in relationships are doing the same thing as you, sitting at home. Single friends either want to get out of their lonely apartment or away from their parents.
I love my single friends. I love girl's night. I love sitting at home with my man. I don't hate on single girls, I was there too, I understand. Girls in relationships just need to remember to a time when you were a single friend, and single girls just remember someday the tables will probably be reversed. :)
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